Online Privacy and Fake Memories

NEW UPDATES: Please scroll to the bottom to read the updates!! Something similar was mentioned on the Today show on 2/27/2015.

We often don’t think about it when we post a photo online via Facebook or Twitter that someone will come along and snatch it and use it as their own.

Sick? Absolutely. My mom said it was frightening. She even asked “what is wrong with those people”.

She’s right. It is. But, it is very real and I’ve seen it with my own eyes. As far as what is wrong with them … that is anyone’s guess and only a medical professional’s opinion.

How’d we get on to the subject?

I was talking with a friend Sunday night (12/21) when she questioned the “validity” of a photo. Basically “Joanna” was claiming that the photo was of herself, a twin (Janne), and a friend taken “a long time ago”. [As of note, the “Joanna” account no longer exists on Facebook, so that says something right there – though perhaps the privacy was locked down].

The problem? These people are in their 40’s (born in 1970). So, the photo would HAVE to be about 30-35 years old (1979-1984).

Here’s the screen-cap:

[While it is dated December 17, 2008 ... that can be backdated. I know, I've done it on Facebook for photo albums]

Frightening? Absolutely. It should be.

To make it more terrifying, the apparent “friend” [Lisa] comments that she remembers it ... which you can read here:

[Long long time ago? As in when? 2008 or 2014?]

While that’d be okay … the photo was taken from a November 2014 blog:

“Stay Safe on the Slopes – Safety Tips for Families” [http://kidproject.org/2014/11/26/stay-safe-slopes-safety-tips-families/]

[Listing from the main BLOG page of the website]

[Full size photo. Can find it here: http://kidproject.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/11/IMG_6331-640x523.jpg]

Scared now?

Sorry, but I am hoping you are. Actually, I’m hoping you’re TERRIFIED. This is THAT serious! 

I’m sure this mom would be terrified that her children are being “used” like this – that someone (Joanna) is claiming to be her children, only a “long time ago”, and that another person (Lisa) remembers that memory. I’m sorry, but that is terrifying.

But, you wonder … if it happened to her … could it happen to you? Is someone using your children as their own, maybe as their younger selves? Maybe they’re using your memories as theirs.

That reminds me of a movie … remember “One Hour Photo”? It was one of Robin Williams’ movies were he deviates from his normal comedic side.

Here’s a synopsis from IMDB:

“His favorite customers are the Yorkin family, made up of husband Will (Michael Vartan), wife Nina (Connie Nielsen), and their son, Jake (Dylan Smith). He has done their photos for years and, over time, has developed an obsession with the family; he idolizes their happiness and affluence, memorizes every personal detail about them that he can learn, and finally begins to stalk them. Sy secretly makes his own copies of the Yorkins' photos from the film negatives and then puts them on a wall in his apartment, a massive collage which has accumulated to over 600 in count. Most of all, he fantasizes about being a member of their family and sharing in the love he assumes they must feel.”

[http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0265459/synopsis?ref_=tt_stry_pl]

That (and this newest incident) has me thinking about all those photos I share on Twitter with my “Project: 365” and other “memories”.

Who else is using those? Thankfully I don’t have a family that I put up there (kids, husband, parents, etc). And, as far as Facebook? That is locked down. Only specific people that I know and trust can see my photos. There are some people I personally know (friends) that I don’t let see certain things. But, it is cause for concern.

I’d like to warn this mom … give her “Lisa’s” information and let her report it to Facebook. But, I also don’t want to invade the mom’s privacy or sound like a creeper. I mean how would it sound?

However, the reason I decided to mention this is that some of my friends “friend” a lot of people on Facebook, publicize their Instagram accounts, and even post on Twitter. These people have their kids’ names listed, where they go to school, and sometimes their schedules. Again, that movie comes to mind.

I’m wondering how many people might have stolen those precious memories and are using them in a Facebook account talking about their “kids”.

My friend and I were talking about this while I was watching the prequels of “Star Wars”. As I sat there watching the movie, crocheting, and spending time with my mom ... I thought about who might have saved my pictures and used them to make up their own memories or moments.  Whose daughter am I? Whose mother is she? It can be frightening. It definitely makes you want to reconsider uploading that cute photo of the kids.

That was another reason I felt compelled to write this … it could happen to any one of us. And, the sad thing? “Lisa” never addressed the issue of why that picture from supposedly a “long time ago” featured someone’s real kids from a November 2014 blog.

If my blog accomplishes anything I hope you {the reader} take stock of what you post and your security settings. And, also watch who you friend. While I’ll admit, I friend some people I haven’t met, I’ve also gotten to know them through people I have … and their stories check out.

As with anything – be cautious. Don’t be afraid to set up “lists” on Facebook and group people accordingly. Watch what you put out there. And, if it seems strange, yes question it – PLEASE! There are some sick people out there. They don’t always advertise.

If you’re not sure, ask a friend’s advice. The worst thing you’ll end up doing is losing someone who likely should be lost. The best thing? You’ll keep your family’s memories to yourselves not to mention your safety.

As far as me? I’m wondering if I want to keep sharing pictures on Twitter …

UPDATE [1:50pm PST]:

After writing this blog nine (9) hours ago (and half-asleep), someone commented on a Facebook post that perhaps the individual who did this might be mentally ill. All the more reason in exercising caution when posting online and who you share to.

And, all the more reason to “warn” people against friending the person or persons in the photos. After all, as friends shouldn’t we look out for each other? Especially this time of year?

Although the “commenter” didn’t see anything wrong with it and pointed out that it wasn’t like it was a pedophile deal. True it wasn’t.

I will agree to a point ...

But, as I and someone else pointed out – you can’t say for 100% that the person isn’t trying to lure people in with a sad tale. And, you can’t say for 100% that they aren’t a child predator.

Why?

Some things start off innocent. And, when something BAD happens we say “OH NO! I saw that! I knew something was wrong/off. I knew it, I felt it. I had this nagging feeling …”

I’d rather be overly cautious than be a victim. There is NOTHING wrong with exercising caution nor warning people to take a bit more caution. The worst that happens is that we’re wrong.

But, when it starts off with a lie … I don’t think it is going to get better.

Again, just my thoughts on that. As for me? I’m going to tighten my security a bit better.

Another thought I will leave with everyone – IDENTITY THEFT. If that isn’t a cause for concern, I don’t know what is. 

Now, to get Twitter to have that nifty little “list” feature.

UPDATE: January 4, 2015

I just wanted to update this blog to say that I did more research on that “photo” …

Here is another link where this blog was featured:

“5 Safety Tips For Families On the Slopes”

[http://blog.snowbasin.com/2014/02/5-safety-tips-for-families-on-the-slopes]

Here is another “photo” with those kids … (supposedly this “Lisa” with Janne and Joanna) … 

And, the direct photo link :

http://blog.snowbasin.com/wp-content/uploads/G0092007-001.jpg

It bears repeating that that is in NO way a “long, long ago” picture. I’d venture a guess that it was in 2014. Definitely not in the 1970’s.

I am also writing a follow up blog as to my future of “Project: 365” on Twitter. 


UPDATE: 2/27/2015 ...

I had to take my car in for service and was waiting on paperwork for a loaner. I heard about "DIGITAL KIDNAPPING" on the TV. Here is the video from the TODAY show: 

http://www.today.com/video/today/57041622

Here is also an article about it: 

http://www.fox8live.com/story/28189979/digital-kidnapping-a-growing-trend

I urge everyone to read this blog, share it, and get educated!! This is not just a "minor" matter. This crime has a name. I hope the person who once commented  “wrong, but not really a big issue to worry about” ... can now see this is a crime, it has a name, and there are victims.

PROJECT: 365

I’ve written a few things here or there, but I thought I’d answer a few questions some people have asked or might ask about this #Project365 I do every day/month/year …

What is #Project365?

That’s a good question … I’ll tell you …

I don’t know.

Sorry, couldn’t resist quoting a line from one of my favorite movies.

Basically, it is a photography project where you take one picture a day (usually 365 days a year, except for leap years). This not only helps you remember your life, but also get more comfortable with your photography equipment. I’ve even used an HTC Evo 4G phone, as well as a Samsung Galaxy S3. The GS3 is spectacular, at least for me.

I wrote a blog back in 2011 describing “Project: 365”. Wow, was that really three years ago? My how much time does fly past us?

Anyway …

The blog can be found here: “Introduction”  (http://snapshotsandproject365.blogspot.com/2011/09/introduction.html).

How Did This Start?

In 2009, I was introduction to “Project: 365”. I was on the website of a radio station (likely there to redeem some points for a prize) when I read about “Project:365”.

This man described that in a crisis, we watch our lives flash before our lives. He said most of the moments were blurs and some were things he had forgotten. He decided, after that moment, to take one picture a day, every year.

I lost sight of the article after a while. I wonder if he is still doing this.

When I started, I soon learned that most of the time we are so busy living our lives, we forget to document them as they happen. Memories are told, rather than shown. Key things might be forgotten and chances are missed. Those are memories and chances that will never happen again – so, document them while you can.

The premise is basic – take a picture for each day of the year. Either with a digital camera or a camera phone. I’m sure you could do a 35mm camera, but that could get expensive – buying filming then transferring it to DVD.

The pictures can be anyone (with their permission of course), anything (that isn’t sensitive or private in nature), any place (where you legally can).

I usually plan for a few “selfies” throughout the year to see how I’ve changed – hair color, weight, and fashion sense – maybe I have different glasses to show off!

I also plan for vacation highlights (sometimes resorting to Fotor for collages), gas prices (we all know how up and down they are), and certain landmarks (as they come or go).

And, once I year I have the NASCAR race in March. That is a LOT of opportunity right there to take and/or post one picture per day.

There is also #WBW (Way Back Wednesday); #TBT (Throw-Back Thursday); and #FBF (Flashback Friday) where you find an old picture and post it, take a picture of something old, or scan one of those OLD pictures.

That has definitely been fun. I’ve got a lot of #WBW, #TBT, and #FBF stuff to do until the end of the year, if not well into next year. Going through my stuff that has been in storage over 25 years is definitely fun and exciting.

It can be an old t-shirt you loved, a shirt from school, something you’ve had “forever”.

But, if you have a family, you can document first/last days of school, field trips, whatever you feel comfortable with. Even if there is a new restaurant you go to. Perhaps one you do monthly?

My pictures don’t really have a theme. On October 14, 2014 – I took this one:

[I still have no idea what this is]

Kind of silly isn’t it?

In 2012, a friend of mine had an “Instagram” challenge for the holidays: “Christmas Photo Challenge”. There were things like:

Christmas Decor

Something Shiny

Red

Holiday Texture

Star

By now, you should get the idea … you can read that blog here:

“Christmas Photo Challenge” (http://snapshotsandproject365.blogspot.com/2012/12/christmas-photo-challenge.html).

It was a fun and exciting challenge. Adding in the fact I was playing with “filters” in the app … it made a memorable month’s worth of photos.

I also took picture of items I’d won on Twitter through re-tweets or trivia replies. As you can see … there are a lot of opportunities for taking a picture.

You Take/Took Them, Now What Do You Do With Them?

When I started this project, I uploaded them to Facebook and Twitter with a caption. I then started sharing on Google + (G+) and 365org. After realizing that managing four (4) social networks was a bit of a time-sponge, and there was limited interaction on two of them – I opted to stick to Facebook (where family and friends are), and Twitter (where some other friends are).

I was also backed them up on USB flash drives as well as DVD in case something happened to my computer. I also put them on my back-up laptop as well.

But, I wanted to do something else – I wanted to put them in an album or make a “photobook” of them to have a physical copy for those who were not on social media.

For the 2009 “Project: 365” book, I decided to use some “Snapfish” credits to make a photo book. That was time consuming and expensive as I was limited by their templates, and felt a bit creatively restrained.

But, several years later, I became a Heritage Makers Consultant where I can literally design it from the bottom up. And, it is a “small business” as well, so I’m helping mothers (mostly) and friends, not a corporate CEO.

While the company (HM) has changed slightly, the goal remains the same – document and preserve your stories, memories, and heritage.

So … I started working on my own “from scratch” photobooks (note “started”, not anywhere close to being done). That is definitely taking some time. Picking out the perfect “page” background, and arranging the photos in the albums (for framing) is quite time consuming since I have decided to re-do 2009 and haven’t started 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, or even 2014.

But, after I get them done, it will be quite worth it. This way if Twitter or Facebook were to ever shut down, I’d have something to pass on to my children and their children … a “heritage” of sorts. They can see the things I saw, and I can put stories with the photos to tell them what was going on at the time.

To check out what Heritage Makers is all about, go to my website:

http://heritagemakers.com/me429

Now, if you like doing it the old fashioned way, with “prints”, you can always sign up for Shutterfly (you get free prints for signing up) and redeem MyCokeRewards for prints (through entering Coca-Cola product codes). You might get an occasional “FREE 100 Prints” email from Shutterfly. I got one in July just after an amazing trip I took (took advantage of that). Then, after Labor Day, I got another email (wasn’t able to take advantage of that).

Usually the emails follow major holidays. You could get enough credits to cover the prints you need and only pay for shipping. Finding a suitable photo album is another thing as most only have spaces for 200 (the one I used for my trip), 300, 500 prints. And, you have to either find a photo album with a space to write captions, write on the photo, or on the back (meaning taking it out to show it to others). But, whatever works. No one way is right. I do what is easier for me … and what I have room for.

This project allows me to “re-live” certain moments and memories. In addition, I am getting quite familiar with my photography equipment, though I do need a new camera for obvious reasons:

[Camera and cord falling apart, literally]

How Long Should Someone Do This?

As long as you like. I’ll do it as long as I possibly can. Providing I am able to and have the equipment to do it.

A man by the name of Jamie Livingston took a single picture nearly every day with a Polaroid from March 31, 1979 to October 25, 1997, the day of his death. That was some dedication. According to the articles, that was eighteen (18) years. And, I’m technically in my sixth (6^th)? WOW!! I’ve got a long way to go. I’d be almost 50!

Here are some articles about that:

“Daily Polaroids Detail Last 18 Years of NYC Man's Life”  [3-31-2008] (http://www.foxnews.com/story/2008/05/31/daily-polaroids-detail-last-18-years-nyc-man-life/)

“The Days of His Life” [10-10-2008] (http://www.nytimes.com/2008/10/12/nyregion/thecity/12day.html?_r=2&ref=thecity&)

I know a few friends who started off with it but haven’t been as vigilant as I have. One stopped because their camera broke (despite having a good camera phone), another friend stopped due to lack of interest, and one had found it was increasingly difficult to find new things every day.

I’ll admit, after about six (6) years (2009, 2010, 2011, 2012, 2013, and now 2014) … it can be a challenge. Some pictures have been food themed, travel related, school related, and downright silly.

The point is … you don’t have to have a theme or be a professional! You can just take one picture. That’s all. In the first year, I took 1-6 per day. Last year, I found some free software that allowed me to do collages, so that makes everything easy when dealing with multiple photos I want to post. I still get one picture, but I might have 2-6 items in it. The point is to take a picture of something, anything, etc.

How Do You Keep It All Together? 

Taking the pictures, documenting what it was, and documenting what network I posted to can seem like a challenge. And, the longer you wait to update the project, it can seem complicated right? Wrong.

It’s rather easy.

As part of my yearly Christmas gifts, my mother gives me a yearly/monthly planner, like this:

[Some are fancy, some plain – either way, they work] 

I begin using it on January 1^st and up to December 31^st. I aim for taking the gas price pictures as the last day of the month: 28^th, 30^th, 31^st. Anything else falls in where it should. Naturally the major “holidays” and events take precedence over anything I might see. If I see something weird on that day, I might post it in a status.

I’m a bit creative in the planner. I make a “bracket box” and high light it to write it in the “subject” for the rare times I cannot immediately post the picture:

[There are times you can only make a note of your picture for the day. Here is how I do it.]

I have either use the camera’s file name (last four digits), “phone”, or “collage”. Then, I write down a brief note. The longest I’ve gone is about 10 days, which was due to being sick and having quite a bit of errands.

Because I used the planner, it was quite easy to manage even DAYS after I took the picture.

I use a green highlighter for “F” (Facebook), and a blue for “T” (Twitter). At one point I needed pink for “G+” (Google +), purple for “3” (which was the website 365 ORG), and orange for “S” (Snapfish).

By using “F” and “T” in the “date space”, I know I’ve uploaded those photos.

I also have a “template” in word (and have it saved) for “copy-righting” and for the standard Twitter post:

“#Project365 – October 15th – ” [just need to fill in the caption/description of the photo].

For Facebook, I usually just choose this: “Project: 365 – November 2014” for the album name. That way in the description, I only have to list the date and caption.

As you can see, after this length of time, I’ve got this down to a science. It could seem complicated, then again it seems rather easy.

As far as uploading them to Heritage Makers … that I will work on … later.

How Rewarding Has This Been?

For me?

It’s definitely helped me through quite a few bad times. It has helped me look back and see things that were going to happen long before they did.  It has helped me be a better photographer, and it has helped me document my days better. Definitely helps with memories, not that I have a problem, but it is amazing how this project works like that. I can sometimes reflect on the entire day.

It gives my family and friends a look into some of the things they might not see any other way. They get to be a part of my life that was at one point unavailable.

Photography has always been a hobby of mine. With a digital camera, I have an unlimited resource to take pictures.

So, I’d say that while there are no financial rewards (I don’t sell my pictures for money) … there are unlimited experiences when doing this.

How Does One Start “Project: 365”?

Starting is easy, grab your camera. And, I would recommend a planner. You can get them from about $5-$20 at Walmart, Staples, Office Depot, Target … most major retailers. I usually go for Walmart first as I’ve gotten them as low as $4. But, if there is a special one? I’ll pay up to $20. But, no more.

After that? Snap, document, and upload. Remember to mark it off. If you need highlights, I recommend using “Sharpie Accent”. You can usually get them one at a time in a bin, or in the packs. I use blue for Twitter because of the bird, so by default I can’t do it for Facebook. I use green as it is also a dark color and easy to see. But, any colors you choose are fine.

I’m now doing a “monthly” review, as well as “weekly” highlights to spotlight some of the most unique and positive moments of the month.

Also, it helps in tracking gas prices.

Then, anytime of day – day, night, evening.

Of course good sense dictates you don’t take pictures of sensitive, proprietary, or potentially identifying information.

Children at school okay, not WHERE. The mall, but watch out if you have a “professional camera”. Look for the blog on that. Just anytime you can squeeze off a good round of pictures. I’ve gotten a “one and done” because that moment was so quick. And, taking my camera in my purse or pocket is essential next to my license, phone, and keys.

Back about 10 years ago a former friend quizzed me on why I brought my camera to work. I explained that I might see something interesting coming to work or going home. As a result, I carried my phone in my purse as a habit. 

Of course I wouldn’t have to because of my camera phone. But, when the battery goes on that? I need a back-up.

When Do You Start The Project?

While I never like putting things off, I would highly recommend that you “practice” as soon as you can, but I’d start off with the New Year (at the beginning) – make it a New Year’s resolution or goal …whatever you call them.

It makes sense to start on January 1^st as that is when the year begins and it is easy to track. If you forget a day or two, you can still take a picture of something that came in on that day or something you got on that day.

The point is to have fun, document your life, and get familiar with the camera equipment.

And, in my case? It gives me a reason to stay out of the house longer than just taking my mom to and from work.

It also gives me great “footage” for my personalized calendars:

[One of the many things I do with my pictures. This is my 2013 calendar]

Don’t Forget the Cheese!!!

As of the last few months, I have been shopping at stores other than Walmart, as the pocketbook allows. Also, there are items and/or brands that Sprouts and Trader Joe’s do not have, so I can’t rely on them 100%. Sprouts gets about 35% of our money, Trader Joe’s about 15%. The rest is divided between Walmart, Smith’s, and Albertson’s. Usually Albertson’s only gets less than 5% of our grocery funds. Personally, I think they are on the way out of business. The stores are mostly empty no matter what time of day or day we go in.

Anyway ...

Today, I had to do what I call a “supplemental grocery run” … meaning “get items we forgot”; “get more of the items we tried and liked”;  and “if there is extra money … get something we haven’t tried”.  The “we” is my mom and I.

This is how the grocery shopping is usually done during the payday weekend, the week following payday, and sometimes … the week leading up to the next payday.

Today’s “fun” was forgetting an item I kept reminding myself to get.

I’m not old! I resist the idea that I’m old, because … I am not old!! For the record: I am under the age of 40, but over the age of 30. 

Now, that we’ve established that …

Today I had some simple tasks:

** From Trader Joe’s – pick up some Shrimp Nuggets (basically huge pieces of shrimp in a bread coating)

** Return some Sprouts Pumpkin Barbeque Sauce (had items that were too spicy and I am allergic to – BUMMER, sounded good) – pick up some Sabrett Hot Dogs (the only ones we can eat) and pick up some ground cumin (cheaper buying it from the “bulk bottles”)

** At Walmart, pick up some Heinz Cocktail sauce (for the shrimp nuggets), some Ball Park Hot Dog buns for the Sabrett dogs, and … GET SHREDDED MOZARELLA CHEESE for the Trader Joe’s Ziti purchased on Friday (FYI: I LOVE cheese … and stuff like that NEVER has enough)

[The TJ Ziti I was reminding myself to buy cheese for]

Simple enough:

Trader Joe’s: Shrimp Nuggets (x2)

Sprouts: Return Pumpkin Barbeque Sauce; get Sabrett dogs and a few ounces of Ground Cumin

Walmart: Ballpark Hot Dog buns, Heinz Cocktail Sauce, and shredded mozzarella cheese

[not the actual product I was going to get, but a "visual" aid of what I needed to buy]

I even wrote out a small list and put it in my wallet. I took my mom to work and we even went over the list … simple enough.

After dropping her off (and before leaving the parking lot), I attached the cable from my car stereo to my iPod, selected my play list, and … I was off to run my errands. I specifically designed my route to take me where I needed to go so nothing was out of the way. I’m blessed in that the way I travel, I pass by SO many grocery stores, so shopping at all of them at once really isn’t a chore at all. And, we do save money.

I took a specific side street that would get me in and out of TJ’s pretty darn easy. I parked out of the way, giving me a better way to exit the parking lot and went in the store.

Got my Shrimp Nuggets (x2) and looked for cheese. Sorry, a bit too pricey for me, and I did need to go to another store. I found something for lunch though. Got in line. Wrong line, the checker and the customer were taking their time with a full basket. Finally, a kind older gentleman (praise be for them) offered to let me go ahead. I hated to cut in front of older folks, I refuse to do it. He said “you’ve been waiting there forever, go on” (and he sipped his sample of coffee).

I was checked out before most everyone as I used my AMEX pre-paid “Serve” card. In/out … out to the parking lot. That chore was done. Bag in the basket in the trunk, me in the car … glasses off, sunglasses on, put cable in iPod, turn iPod on, get settled, start the car … and … we’re off to Sprouts!!

Got to Sprouts. I returned the Pumpkin Barbeque Sauce and got a few ounces of Ground Cumin that cost me … 13¢. Yup, big spender I am. I would have gotten more, but their jar was empty after that. Back to my car I go … 

Put the cumin bag in the TJ’s bag in the trunk. Me, back in the car … glasses off, sunglasses on, put cable in iPod, turn iPod on, get settled, start the car … and … we’re off to Walmart (well, the neighborhood market one)!

Got to Walmart, got a good space to park too! Got out … go to head in.

FORGOT THE SABRETT HOT DOGS AT SPROUTS!!

$%#&!!

Okay, I can handle this … go into the neighborhood market get the CHEESE. Do not forget the cheese!! I text my mom to let her know I will be late getting home, have to go back to Sprouts. 

“OKIES”

I go into Walmart … got the Heinz Cocktail Sauce and Ballpark Hot Dog buns, do self checkout. Whew!! I need refreshment … I stick the items in the TJ’s bag in the trunk. Me, back in the car … glasses off, sunglasses on, put cable in iPod, turn iPod on, get settled, start the car … and … we’re off to Wendy’s. I need a large Frosty (plus I have my free Jr. Frosty key-taggy-dealy-thingy).

Get to Wendy’s, ordered at the drive-thru (maybe the last time too). Go to pay. Problem with card. He says it was entirely declined. I show my phone to show it is “pending”. He says it only paid $0.01. 

That is one penny, one cent, 1¢. 

But, after looking at my phone to clearly see the transaction is pending … “oops, we don’t know what happened. It wouldn’t take off the last cent”. After handing me the receipt, it only processed $2.36 NOT the $0.01 he said. Had I just handed over $2.37, I would have ended up paying $4.73 for a large frosty! Yikes!!

They covered the last PENNY because after all, they had no clue what was going on and almost had me pay twice. I don’t know what was going on either. I had to ask twice for a straw. 

Okay, got a few sips of the Frosty in, throat is happy … back to Sprouts.

I find a better parking space, run in, get the hot dogs … toss them in the TJ’s bag in the trunk. Me, back in the car … glasses off, sunglasses on, put cable in iPod, turn iPod on, get settled, start the car … and … we’re heading home!!

Thank goodness.

Mom texts to ask if everything is okay, I tell her I’m checking the mail (she sometimes has good timing). No mail yet. Pull into garage, get everything out, lower the door, lock garage (by turning off the circuit switch at the breaker), and put groceries away.

Proudly text her that I got everything. She acknowledges … just as I put everything away … and read her text; I came to a frightening revelation:

I FORGOT THE DAMN CHEESE!!!

[No, no cheese here ... EXPLETIVES ABOUND!]

How is that for a laugh? Don’t forget the cheese, I need to get cheese, look for cheese … DAMN IT!!  I FORGOT THE $%#&#!^ CHEESE!!!

Well … guess what I will have to stop and get after I pick mom up from work? You guessed it …

THE DAMN CHEESE!!

At least I can laugh … it’s not like I needed it right now. Oh, and the thingy I got from Trader Joe’s for lunch? Pretty good, and the Frostys were great!!

So … how’s your Monday been? 

Legal Stuff:

I don’t own the Sprouts, Trader Joe’s, Walmart, or Sargento logos, so if you need them ... look on Google like I did. I do own the picture of my groceries though so please do not share them.

And, FYI ... although my mom may text while I am driving ... she knows that I might be a few minutes in replying. I will either pull into a parking lot or wait until I get home. 


UPDATE:

As of 7:27pm 10/20/2014 (Pacific/West Coast/California time) ... I got my cheese!! Praise be. Of course, after all that trouble, I decided to cherish it and use it another night!

[Photographic evidence that I got the cheese. Better late than never, right?]

Know Your Camera Equipment

Believe it or not, some people do not know their cameras or equipment. While they might be good or even excellent photographers – they don’t know the different between “pro” and “point & shoot”.

This has caused a LOT of problems for people in certain situations – concerts, malls, family gatherings … even a trip to a family fun center has brought up the issue of when and where cameras should and shouldn’t be allowed.

Not all cameras are the same …

So, why is it important to know your camera?

Other than knowing how it works, it’s also good so you know where it is allowed, and where it isn’t allowed. That could mean a lifetime of memories, or a fleeting experience with nothing to remind you of it.

Some places have restrictions on the type of camera that is allowed – some allow no photography whatsoever, some allow only “personal” use cameras. And, that can lead to confusion.

There are a few cameras we know about:

     ** Smart Phones with cameras (iPhones, Android, etc.)

     ** Digital “point & shoot” cameras (like the lower/cheaper Cybershots)

     ** Digital SLR (DSLR)/Professional cameras (higher class Cybershots, etc).

Now, I’ll be the first to admit … I don’t know everything about photography. But, I do know the professional ones from the “point & shoot” personal ones. I do know that some are WAY more advanced than others, and designed for a different purpose.

The reason I mention this is because of two incidents revolving the use of photography in certain areas. Two personal ones in 2012, and an experience a friend had earlier in the year.

Where NOT to Use Professional “PRO” Cameras …

On a trip to the mall, a friend was “approached” by security regarding the use of her camera. In short, there was a certain “restriction” regarding the use of “professional” cameras in the mall. While she didn’t know the camera was exactly a “pro” camera, there is also no signage prohibiting the use thereof. Personal cameras and/or cell phones were allowed though, which can make it seem confusing. Why is ONE particular camera allowed, and another not allowed?

I get the confusion.

“Why is ONE particular camera allowed, and another not allowed?”

From reading about a lot of legalities surrounding the use/distribution/publication of people’s likeness and/or images for commercial use, in addition to children’s privacy, I think I get it. I do.

The reason? PRIVACY.

I don’t even like having my picture taken at the racetrack and try very hard to “hide”. I just don’t see myself as “photogenic”; please take someone else’s picture … stay away from me. But, I know being out at the race track, and doing what I do there … there is a chance I will be “photographed”. I give up my rights when I go there. That I understand.

On the other hand … being that I LOVE to photograph experiences, I’m always up for a chance to document my memories. As anyone on Facebook will tell you … I’ve posted OVER 14,000 pictures going back over the course of 10 years.

I’ve used my camera phone and “point & shoot” (a VERY SMALL Cybershot) in several situations. One was at the mall, in front of security, with no reprimand. And, I was there two straight days, same area – the food court, where my friend was approached.

Why was I there? I was working on a class assignment. It was an Anthropology assignment on human interactions. I had my laptop, my textbook, my photo equipment (my phone, my camera, and my camera’s USB cable), and my backpack. I also had a web browser open to the class and assignment. Perhaps seeing that … security assumed I was there doing homework (legit reason) and left me alone.

But, to get to the bottom of “why is one camera allowed over the other”, we have to understand the differences and the purposes.

What is the Difference Between “Pro” and “Point & Shoot”?

Besides looks and functions?

Professional = Distribution to a large audience. Possible monetary compensation, commercialized distribution, advertising usage

This is more or less along the lines of a “pro” camera:

[Example of a "pro" Cybershot camera]

Personal = Distribution to a limited audience many via Instagram, Facebook, Twitter. Usually personal use and sharing. No monetary compensation involved, and no commercialization.

My camera when I got it in 2010:

[Small "point & shoot" Cybershot; mainly personal use]

I get that, and I think we all do. It makes PERFECT sense.

I also feel as though there should have been some “signage” (whether or not people pay attention) to state: only personal cameras and smart-phones allowed – 

NO PROFESSIONAL PHOTOGRAPHY WITHOUT PERMISSION OF MALL.

That would have worked. Warning is posted and if people don’t read – their fault. It might have avoided a few problems for the friend that day.

Again, because of the camera, they might have thought the person was doing something sinister.

We live in “suspicious” times. We don’t really know each other, so we don’t know what anyone is capable of or even thinking. Perhaps they thought she was there to photograph kids for an advert.

Or, she could have been working for an investigator. She might have been something worse … again; we don’t really know each other, so we don’t know what anyone is capable of or even thinking of.

That is why it is up to us to know the equipment and where it is and isn’t allowed.

What Have My Photo Taking Experiences In Public Been Like?

For the most part – terrific! No real problems. I’ve been able to take pictures at every event … almost. And, there will be a blog about the one time I wasn’t able to, but it was a “special event”, so it was understandable.

Since I began using a digital camera in December 2003, I haven’t had any real problems from people – private people or celebrities.

The only major incident was with a private person on April 29, 2012, my birthday. That almost turned a blessed day/event into something ugly. And, it was something I was reminded of when my friend posted her issue about the camera and the mall almost two years later.

I was spending the day at Scandia in Victorville for my birthday. Since I hadn’t been to a Scandia in a LONG time (try about 1996), I was taking pictures of the little houses, buildings, and the “bumper boats” – even the little Indy racers as well as the surrounding area. Tell me who didn’t do this back in the day? 

[Little buildings at Scandia – Victorville, CA]

I have some OLD 4” x 6” photos from the one that had been here in Las Vegas adjacent to the I-15. That was back in the days of 35mm film! Those were some good times …

Coming back to the present …

As I said … I was there for my birthday. I was actively playing mini-golf, wearing my “all-day/all-access” wrist band, when this man aggressively approached me. He demanded to know why I was taking pictures of HIS kids.

Again, this is with my “point & shoot” camera, I’m with my mom … we’re playing golf. It wasn’t as if I had been lurking or following him, it wasn’t like I wasn’t actively doing my own thing between “turns”.  I wasn’t “lingering” or “loitering”.

Naturally … I was a bit stunned as to why he was so aggressive.

Now, I don't like people in my pictures (sometimes they’re distracting), so I make sure to shoot around people as much as possible, especially kids. I don’t like to have kids in my photos if I can get by with it. Sometimes, I can’t – like at a NASCAR track. On this occasion, I could. I made a special effort to go around them.

The man demanded I give him my camera! No way, buddy! Not getting it. You want it … call a cop (at least that’s what I was thinking). My mom stopped playing to watch what was going on. I signaled for her to stay back as right then it didn’t concern her, it was my problem, and the fewer people “involved” – the better.

The man was agitated and I didn’t want things to escalate. It was my birthday, we’d just gotten there, having driven close to 190 miles to get there – I didn’t want my day to end before it began. I remained calm and in control …

He again demanded the camera and, again, accused me of taking pictures of HIS kids.

Had it not been so serious, I would have laughed. I didn’t know which of the eight kids gathered there were “his” kids, and I had also taken other pictures of the trip down there, so it wasn’t like I hadn’t been taking any pictures all day.  And, I had no “kids” in any of my pictures.

I politely informed him that I wasn't taking pictures of his kids. He said “you most certainly were; I saw you”.

What we see, and what we think we see are two different things. It might look like it, but it isn’t. I might point the camera, but I don’t “shoot” until it is “clear”.  I look, wait, snap. I’m not exactly a pro, but I’m not an amateur either. At that point, I had been taking pictures for over nine (9) years. In that time … I’ve perfected a few things.

Anyone with access to my photos can see this is how I shoot my pictures. Of course there will be the rare times of tourist attractions or photo bombs and I share a picture that people are present in, but it doesn’t “detract” from the subject. I’m sure we’ve ALL done that. Sometimes, it cannot be avoided.

Maintaining a firm grip of my camera, I showed him the previews to show that his kids WERE NOT in my pictures. He asked me about the “foot” picture I had taken. It showed a pink and a purple golf ball, along with a foot in flip-flops. I tried not to laugh as that foot belonged to my mom! It was HER foot! While not “huge”, certainly it was too big to be that of a child’s foot.

Still not convinced I wasn’t up to a sinister act, I showed him my wrist band, our receipt for our purchase, said it was my birthday, and that I was taking PERSONAL pictures of my experiences. He wanted me to delete all pictures off the camera card to be sure. I deleted only a few “empty” ones of the bumper boats, but I said no more. After a few seconds, he backed down but said “watch it”. I was rattled, but moved on. Not sure if he left or what. I didn’t see him again. I did get a few pictures of the bumper boats anyway – again, no kids.

[Celebrating my birthday at Scandia – Victorville, CA. As you can see that "foot" is not exactly a child's foot. That was my mother. The pink ball was hers that day.]

And, I kept on taking pictures without any further incidents from anyone. Even others in the area made comments about him. Apparently there was something going on, but as I’ve come to learn ... “not my circus, not my monkey”. 

As long as he stayed away from us … it was all good. And, since it didn’t end in violence or the police arriving – it was definitely “good”.

I know I shouldn’t have had to delete the pictures, after all … we’re in public, it is a tourist attraction, and families go there … what was the problem?

I didn’t know, wasn’t going to ask. He was concerned, he was upset, I honored a request (to a point), and moved on. I respected his right to privacy, but I was NOT going to just give up everything.

Some would argue that it was a “PUBLIC FACILITY” much in the way Disneyland is.

Can you imagine Disneyland telling tourists “NO PICTURES”?

Honestly, I don’t think that would sit well with their visitors. And, can you imagine EVERY parent demanding someone’s camera or demanding they don’t take pictures of their kids? That’d be real hard to enforce. I get the reasoning behind it though.

That is why I understand the restriction on “professional” cameras. Even some shady paparazzi have been known to buy a ticket/pass for a place to get some pictures to sell.

That might be why there are some “no camera” restrictions. Which, to that point, I hadn’t encountered.

What Do You Mean … “no cameras”?

My first “no camera” experience was later on in 2012 during a visit to Planet Hollywood Hotel/Casino (Las Vegas) for NASCAR’s “After the Lap”. I had to pick up my tickets BEFORE the event as they didn’t mail them out … good thing I live there though.

As I was leaving, a sign caught my eye: NO CAMERAS.

What?!

Since the event started here in Las Vegas in 2009, I’ve ALWAYS gotten to take pictures, most everyone who goes to a concert, special event, race, etc. takes them … pictures are ESSENTIAL to capturing, sharing, and re-kindling memories.

Being curious (and little crushed), I asked security about my phone and my Sony Cybershot, and was told they were allowed in the venue, but not a “pro” camera. Phone cameras and “point & shoot” cameras are deemed “personal”, and were allowed.

Whew! What a relief!

I was satisfied, came home, got ready and headed back there. No problems with security, and I got some GREAT pictures with my little pink “point & shoot”.

[NASCAR "After the Lap" 2012 – Planet Hollywood Hotel/Casino Las Vegas, NV]

The event was switched to the Palms for 2013, but again … no problem using my small Cybershot and smart phone camera.

And, this was also the concern of another friend who’d gone to a concert. Her pro camera wasn’t allowed, but her smaller “point & shoot” was allowed.

So … what’s the BIG Deal Anyway?

With everyone getting so “sue happy” these days, there have been a few lawsuits about “fair use” in advertising with photos. Some started out as personal pictures, which a company asked to use ... then **poof** it got exploited after that.

And, obviously in the “Scandia” case … the father might have thought I was a private investigator or something else, despite the fact I was there celebrating my own special day with some presents in the car, and my mom was there as well. Who knows? But, his concerns are everyone’s concerns – privacy, safety, security.

That’s why it’s IMPORTANT to know your camera.

For years, I’ve wanted a DSLR camera, especially for NASCAR races. So, why haven’t I gotten one?

            1.) COST – Really, I can’t bear to part with the $300 (and up) it might cost.

            2.) RESTRICTED USE – The whole point of getting a “great” camera is to get some “GREAT” images. If I face a lot of restrictions on where to use it, I don’t think it is the camera for me. After all … I’ve used my Cybershot since February 2010, and it’s done great (despite drops, bangs, and falls). This is the LONGEST I’ve ever owned a camera

            3.) SPACE – It doesn’t fit easily in a purse or pocket, or even in my car’s pocket. It is bulky and awkward. I couldn’t see me taking it on a plane (as I did with my pink “Cybershot” in June)

I do know that I will have to get a new camera … the Sony’s USB/Video cable has been through the ringer despite careful usage:

[Poor USB cable ... four years old and still going, despite this]

But, I don’t think I’ll upgrade to a DSLR unless I get into the photography business. I’ve gotten several GORGEOUS shots with my current camera (samples from a flight and trip to New Jersey in June 2014):

[Little flight and trip I took June 2014 – Las Vegas, NV and Newark, NJ]

So … What Have We Learned?

Learn about the equipment! Know the designations of it.

It might not say “professional”, but chances are … the more sophisticated it is, the more professional it COULD be. And, anyone with those cameras can run into a LOT of problems.

I also urge people to carry a smart-phone with a camera and a “point & shoot” just in case “pro” cameras aren’t allowed in the venue. Call and investigate prior, and if you can ... stop by the venue to check out their policies. This might save some headaches.

If you go sight-seeing, take the pro camera, but a trip to the mall or somewhere else? Go for the smaller “point & shoot”. Chances are, you might not have any problems. Always check signage to be sure though.

Realize that not everyone wants their picture taken, and respect that. No matter what the reason is.

Oh, and that event I went to? I only got one picture from the night. It was worth it. But, I did get pictures the day before and day after, and I have hinted at what it was in regards to.

I’ll blog about that some other time …