Elf on the Shelf

[Boy and Girl "Elf on a Shelf". I do not own the copy right to this image. Using it for reference only.]

I was going to scrap this “blog” until I read something in an ABC7 (Los Angeles) news article about …

“ELF ON THE SHELF”

Since Thanksgiving I’ve seen it in some Facebook or Twitter feeds … and the time of year I see articles about it.

Now first off, I don’t have kids. But, I really want them, and I’m still “planning”. However … what I sometimes read from other parents deeply disturbs me, which I’ll get to.

I remember how I was raised, what my mom did, and what her limitations were. And, I remember the magic of Santa and all that. Trust me, even as an adult I still get an item or two from the big jolly guy.

This “Elf on the Shelf” thing was apparently born in 2005 from a mother and daughter making up a “tradition” (as most start out) and making up a story about it.

Now, I’m not knocking it. Turns out traditional publishers turned them down so they went the self-published route. Good for them for not giving up. Look what it’s turned into! I’ll bet it’s up in the millions. Is it a good or bad thing? I can’t judge that.

I should feel so lucky and blessed when I publish a story. Though I don’t think any of mine will have that kind of “marketing” value. Movies or DVDs maybe; even a soundtrack. Not “dolls” though. Certainly no “hoopla” over it.

If you don’t know what is involved with Elf on the Shelf, I highly suggest looking into Pinterest or even the “Elf on the Shelf” Facebook page.

In short – the “elf” (that people adopt and name) is Santa’s “helper” who stays with the family from about after Thanksgiving until Christmas Eve. It reports back to Santa every evening and finds a new “hiding place” in the morning, sometimes with mischievous or hilarious pranks. Kids can’t touch it or the elf loses its magic. But, some of the stories (antics) are hilarious.

I’ve read good and bad tales about it. I know a few friends who have one. The pictures and antics are cute. But, the divisiveness over it is akin to a particular flag (one that’s on a beautiful, historical TV car).

** “It’s creepy”

** “It forces kids to accept a surveillance state”

** “The Elf drives mothers crazy”

** “Do not use him to bully your child into thinking that good behavior equals gifts”

Okay … I get it. It’s a cute little bullying tool? Behave or no gifts. Right?

Nope.

Much like mistletoe and kissing – it’s a tradition. It’s not “forced” on to someone. Do or do not. But, some parents think it’s hard work. What I’ve read on Facebook has me shaking my head …

** “We haven’t even gotten him out yet. I don’t remember his name.”

** “Don’t I have enough to do than worry about a PITA elf?”

[PITA = Pain in the A$$]

Nope … you don’t have to do it at all. It’s optional.

I just don’t get it. Why all the complaining about moving the elf or even the elf itself? Why all the analyzing?

If someone gave it to you as a gift, and you don’t want the responsibility – politely decline and state why you don’t want to do it; or donate the elf to a family who cannot afford one or wants one

If you don’t want to do it – just don’t buy it

If you don’t believe in the message – don’t “adopt” an elf

How one cannot remember the name of their elf is beyond me. They’re supposed to write it down on the “papers” or on the “packaging”.

As far as what the “experts” state – here’s the deal … there can be a lesson in all of this when used appropriately by the parents. I believed in Santa – but I didn’t think my mother lied to me about it. There are no major trust issues as a result. Many adults still continue the tradition of “Santa”, and some include “Mrs. Claus” as well.

Am I paranoid because of the use of Santa? No. Cautious due to the increased security issues/risks, but, nothing more than what should be there.

Should the “elf” be a substitute for “good” parenting? Nope. However each child is different, each set of parents are different.

The key goals should be:

** Yes, someone is watching to see if you do the right thing (which I will get to)

** Do the right thing all the time, even if no one (you think) is watching

** There are consequences in life for bad acts and choices (i.e.: no gifts, jail, etc – as “age” appropriate)

It’s much like when a kid might think about stealing a pack of gum from the store. There are surveillance cameras there. So, if the kid starts with the “I better not do this because someone is watching me and I might get into trouble”, they won’t do bad. They might then feel how good it is to always be good and do it as second nature. And, they might soon realize that they’re watching themselves and be more considerate of others. Good angel/bad devil?

Are we all being watched? Yes. Sadly we are, and everyday it seems. By police, store security, by our family. Every where we go. We don’t think about it when we go to the store, the airport, traffic cameras, or even at work. We live our lives as we should. Sometimes we are thankful that someone is watching, especially when bad things happen.

We should do what’s right all the time. Not out of fear for not getting something, but for the fact it is the right thing to do. If we need some “incentive” to perhaps keep up from failing, what’s wrong with that?

Some people can’t do things without an incentive. Aren’t our paychecks incentive to go to work? A bonus an incentive to do better?

Just keep that in mind.

Is the “Elf on the Shelf” a good idea? For those who want the challenge, sure. For those who don’t? No. 

Is there really a Santa out there?

That’s not for me to decide.

But, I’m going to be “good for goodness sakes”. Not because of the gifts under the tree – for the joy in my heart and because it is the right thing to do. And, because it really does feel good to do good and be good.

Merry Christmas! 

References: 

Dador, D. (2016, December 14). Is 'Elf on the Shelf' making children paranoid? Retrieved December 18, 2015, from http://abc7.com/health/is-elf-on-the-shelf-making-children-paranoid/1122666/

The Elf on the Shelf. (n.d.). Retrieved December 18, 2015, from http://www.elfontheshelf.com/

The Elf on the Shelf: An Elf's Story - Movie Review. (2011, November 25). Retrieved December 18, 2015, from https://www.commonsensemedia.org/movie-reviews/the-elf-on-the-shelf-an-elfs-story#

31 Days of Cheer (Now 24 left)

Sometimes during the holidays (or any other time of year) … there seems to be “photo” challenges. Some I like, some I don’t. I do the #TBT (Throwback Thursday) ones, and sometimes #WBW (Way Back Wednesday) or #FBF (Flashback Friday).

However on the last day of the month I usually do the “gas prices”.

This year, the city I live in decided to do #31DaysofVegasCheer. I of course, living in a suburb, and wanting to spread the cheer all over, decided to shorten it to #31DaysofCheer.

Here’s the idea – take a picture each day and post it to Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook with the tags #31DaysofCheer and the item or “idea” for the day:

[Photo is property of City of Las Vegas, Nevada]

The last time I did something like this was in 2012, which you can read about it here:

“Christmas Photo Challenge”

http://snapshotsandproject365.blogspot.com/2012/12/christmas-photo-challenge.html

I started on day #2 as on the first day I had another more important picture. However, since then I have been able to keep up with the “challenge”.

This fits quite well into my “Project: 365” daily photo challenge. I’m using Fotor to add borders and filters to the challenge photos to bring a unique quality to them.

They can be items in your home, decorating the tree, things like that. They don’t have to reveal locations or family information.

Here are a few examples from 2012 and this year:

[Photo belongs to me. This was December 4th – #ChristmasDecor #ChristmasPhotoChallenge. This was used with an Instagram filter]

[Photo belongs to me. This is December 7th – #31DaysofCheer #WrappingPaper. Used a Fotor filter]

Since I use a planner, I went and wrote in what I needed so I didn’t have to keep looking at the photo. And, I use the planner to record the photos and sometimes the file number …

So, from today to the 31^st, here are the “ideas”:

December 7th – #31DaysofCheer  #WrappingPaper (completed)

 December 8th – #31DaysofCheer #Green (completed)

 December 9th – #31DaysofCheer #Family (completed)

 December 10th – #31DaysofCheer #Presents (completed)

 December 11th – #31DaysofCheer #Stocking (completed)

 December 12th – #31DaysofCheer #CandyCane (completed)

 December 13th – #31DaysofCheer #Tree (completed)

 December 14th – #31DaysofCheer #Santa (completed)

 December 15th – #31DaysofCheer #BeautifulSight (completed)

 December 16th –#31DaysofCheer #FavoriteHolidaySong (completed)

 December 17th – #31DaysofCheer #Peace (completed)

 December 18th – #31DaysofCheer #MerryandBright (completed)

 December 19th – #31DaysofCheer #Tradition (completed)

 December 20th –#31DaysofCheer #Tree (this is a repeat, so if you want to vary it with say a tree cookie, tree ornament, or a different tree, go ahead) (completed)

 December 21st – #31DaysofCheer #Joy (completed)

 December 22nd – #31DaysofCheer #BrightLights (completed)

 December 23rd – #31DaysofCheer #Candles (completed)

 December 24th – #31DaysofCheer #HolidayGreetings (completed)

 December 25th – #31DaysofCheer #ReasonforSeason (completed)

 December 26th – #31DaysofCheer #Sparkly (completed)

 December 27th – #31DaysofCheer #FavoriteThing (completed)

 December 28th – #31DaysofCheer #BlackandWhite

 December 29th – #31DaysofCheer #HolidaySplurge

 December 30th – #31DaysofCheer #Reflection

 December 31st – #31DaysofCheer #Celebrate

Just putting this out here for a way to spread Christmas joy and cheer. We seem to need a little more this year! 

You can see my photos on Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarieEdwards429

I don’t share very many photos there, but since it is the holiday season ... I think it's a great idea! And, if you have one ... you can try it with your Elf on the Shelf. 

Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, Season’s Greetings, and Happy New Year! 

Back to The Future Day: October 21 2015

Today is “Back to the Future” day or BTTF. WOW!

[Screen cap of the time circuit board illuminated with the "pivotal" dates. Image found on Google]

[DeLorean parked in the Fremont Street Experience at the Las Vegas Car Stars. May 15, 2015] 

We learned about October 21, 2015 in “Back to the Future 2” (1989) – let that sink in for a moment.

I’ve been reading about the things that should have been done this time, according to the movie that was released in 1989. That was 26 years ago. A lifetime (if ya go by 20 or 25 year span). Some of today’s “adults” hadn’t even been born yet! Let that sink in too! 

But, let’s discuss the end of BTTF #3 to see why today is perhaps not the way it was portrayed in BTTF #2 …

“Marty arrives on October 27, 1985, escaping the powerless DeLorean before it is destroyed by an oncoming freight train. He discovers that everything has returned to the improved timeline and finds Jennifer sleeping on her front porch. He uses the lessons he learned in 1885 from being goaded into a street race with Needles, avoiding a possible automobile accident. Remembering that this accident would have sent Marty's life spiraling downward by 2015, Jennifer opens the fax message she kept from 2015 and watches as the message regarding Marty being fired is erased.” (Back to the Future III)

When Doc Brown, his time-traveling train, and family arrive … Jennifer asks about that now erased note.

Doc Brown’s response? What we’ve come to expect from a great mind:

“It means your future hasn't been written yet. No one's has. Your future is whatever you make it. So make it a good one, both of you”.

That’s right. The future hadn’t been written yet. Marty’s accident didn’t happen so that 2015 timeline “vanished”.  

So, perhaps that is why a lot of things didn’t occur as perhaps they once had:

** Double neck-ties

** Hoverboard

** Jaws 19

** Flying Cars

** Barcode License Plates

Sometimes small things change the entire history of what was supposed to happen versus what does happen. Just a thought there.

In 1985 (when the story begins), his family were … well … not so well off. When Marty went back to 1955, he actually “empowered” his father to stand up to Biff, thus changing the sequence of events. When he returns to 1985? His family has money, his father is more confident and an author, his mother quite stunning, his siblings weren’t such “losers”, and Marty has a new truck that Biff is polishing.

Also remember, it was the Twin Pines mall when Marty departed. Marty’s accident in the past (running over one of the pine trees in the Peabody Farm) changed it to Lone Pine Mall when he returned back to 1985 from 1955:

[One of the many time-travel related changes. I do not own this image, this was featured on BuzzFeed. Found on Google.]

Even there we see how changing the past clearly changes the future – which hasn’t been written yet.  

It’s interesting, right?

As for me, I saw the movies on HBO in the early 1990’s, when they aired all three in one night. I knew I’d be around in 2015, but this? It’s a bit surreal.

Oh, and let’s not forget that Facebook and Twitter were not mentioned (or “social media”) – which I’m sure I’ll be hearing about BTTF on both for most of today.

I’m still glad Pepsi is around, and their “made with real sugar” varieties. I love Coca-Cola, but sometimes a good old fashioned Pepsi is great too. As for the other things?

Well …

You can read more with this CNN article:

http://www.cnn.com/2015/10/20/entertainment/back-to-the-future-ii-right-wrong-feat/

Here are more photos from the interior of the “time machines”

[The time circuit board]

[Flux capacitor and other circuits]

 

** As of note, any pictures not bearing my © 2015 Marie Edwards do not belong to me. They were found using Google. Since so many versions exist, it is hard to give the proper credit. **

Photos and Facebook

[June 2015. This greeted us while boarding the Mickey and Friends tram to the Disney Parks. First time here since 1996. Obviously a lot has changed, including the "parking lots".]

“Pictures or it didn’t happen” …

I’ve heard it, I’ve said it. And … I mean it.

I love looking at pictures from my family and friends’ adventures and vacations. And, I like to post my own photos of my adventures and vacations.

As someone who takes a LOT of pictures throughout the year (NASCAR, Bellagio Conservatory, Project: 365, etc.) – picking out the “best” ones to share is a challenging task. As I am proud of most of the pictures I take (90%) – I want to share them all. That’s not realistic. So, I do have to narrow it down a bit. And, let’s not forget the day shot, night shot, side shot, front … the list is endless.

I leave out something, I know I left it out, and I feel lazy for leaving it out. Then, there’s someone asking “didn’t you take a picture of [blank]” – so I go find it, and post it. So, rather than to risk it, I find about 75% of the best pictures to share or something like that … just to make sure I’ve covered EVERYTHING! And, from all angles and lighting perspectives. That really adds up over time. I know because I’ve printed some that I’ve posted – I know there are a LOT of photos! I’ve easily surpassed a print count of 500 very easily.

And, it takes some time to get them sorted and uploaded to Facebook. I have to “watermark” them because of something a former friend did years ago.

To just explain that as quickly as possible: I was out shopping and I saw something rather cute. So, since I had a really great Smartphone (and a decent camera) – I snapped a picture of it. It was a “picture of the day” deal.

When I got home and signed in to Facebook, I learned the “friend” had shared (without attribution) my photo from my “personal” gallery. It wasn’t like it was an internet meme – it was a photo I personally took! And, she shared it before I got home.

She didn’t ask permission, and she didn’t even credit me. It wouldn’t have been so irritating if her friends hadn’t thought “her” photo was so cute. While it seems petty – that is a crime. It is intellectual theft. It’s looked down on by the FBI. I immediately (to sort the confusion) thanked the people posting for praising my photos and give them the story behind it. They deleted their comments and I chose to start “watermarking” my photos with the copyright (©) symbol (see photo above), the year, and my name. She didn’t even apologize for sharing the picture when I made the comments I did. Nor did she comment that “oh, it’s her photo, I thought it was cute so I shared it”. Nope. Nothing.

That is one of the reasons I don’t share photos very much or I’m selective on who I share them to. After all once bitten – twice shy.

Once I get the photos “ready”, it’s hard knowing who to share to. You think it’d be an easy choice – it isn’t. It’s not as simple as some might think. And, yes I might over think it – but the last thing I want to do is to have some kind of “drama” over pictures from an event, vacation, or … something!

Family is usually a safe bet – after all, you’ve known them their or your own entire lives. That’s the downside too. Perhaps they’re having a bad time and you don’t want to go “see what I did” and make things worse for them (or rub their nose in it). Not that I do it in that manner. But, it can unintentionally feel like that. Sometimes actions do speak louder than words. And, pictures speak volumes!

For me, a vacation is an oddity. Back in the 1980’s we went on very few vacations. In the 1990’s we went to Disneyland and Knott’s Berry Farm in April 1992; twice in 1993, and the last time being 1996.

I haven’t had a good out-of-state vacation since November 2005 (that was with my mom). The June 2014 trip … that was a bit different – it was just me and it was more or less a “fan experience”.

For me, posting pictures isn’t really bragging. I’m usually excited and I want my family and friends to live my journey with me since we’ve never done anything like that together (believe it or not, my vacations have only consisted of me and my mom). I live through their vacations (and pictures), so I post mine to say “thank you for sharing your life with me, here’s my life”. But, I don’t want to compound anyone else’s problems by “bragging” either.

As far as friends – that gets touchy as well. In fact, that’s dangerous territory right there!

Some friends really want to see the photos and the more the merrier. After all, some live vicariously through us. Others? After about 10-20 photos they get … well … “twitchy”. Like “how many pictures do you really need to remind you? You went on vacay … la-di-dah! My goodness! It’s not that big of a deal!”

Or, they tend to defriend you (if not block entirely).  

Thankfully no one has really said that, but we all know the type. And, like family – they too could be going through bad times. But, having pictures to remind someone of what they can’t do or are missing – that’s really crappy, if not inconsiderate. And, some are all too vocal about it. Others “vague-book” it – “oh yes, you went on vacay, nice … ever think some of us can’t? Ugh! Selfish entitled brats!”

I saw that on Twitter last year. Someone actually took my advice and unfollowed me. She was quite “vocal” about it, in a direct message that is. Though I did tell her that I used Twitter as a back-up for Facebook. And, that for some people who lose loved ones – those social media accounts are the last memories they’ll have of that person.

Puts it into perspective doesn’t it? It should. Sometimes it doesn’t.

Anyway …  

If you don’t know the people that well – you’re opening yourself up for more trouble than it’s worth – regardless of intent.

Though in all fairness – one should be able to post their pictures to Facebook without the fear or stress of offending people. That is unless the photos are truly obscene. But, we all know the “griefer”. They can’t help but make a production of their “miserable lives”.

And, then there are the “souvenir” photos. There are those (family and friends) who want to see what you got – after all, it’s a bit of Christmas Day only more socially acceptable. But, some people are not so curious. After all, it’s a form of bragging – not only did you have a good vacation, but you got the “spoils of war” from it. Then there is the “why do you need pictures of stuff you got” … yeah, I know … “those people”.

So, that’s perhaps why I’ve been holding off sharing my photos – the fear of the backlash from it.

It’s not an easy choice.

Nearly two (2) months later, I haven’t made a decision as to whether I want to post the photos or not.

Even as my orders of prints arrive (right now I’m about halfway on getting them all printed) … I’m still debating on posting.

It’s not like I don’t want to share. I just don’t want the grief from sharing.

I shouldn’t have to feel like that – however that is the downside to social media and “sharing”.

Throwback Thursday

As you know, I haven’t featured a “Jeff Gordon” TBT picture in about a month or so. It isn’t like I’ve forgotten. It’s just that recent events necessitated a pause or change in the direction of the project – mainly to clear my mind and focus. To try to find some “sanity” in the ensuing insanity – that hasn’t worked out too well at times.

This is a blog (and as of warning … quite a long one) that I have struggled with since this issue began last month when a tragic act occurred that seemed to spawn a lot of knee-jerk decisions (and reactions) – including the ceased licensing of “The Dukes of Hazzard” merchandise and TVLand’s decision to remove the re-runs because they were deemed “controversial”. The only reason? A decoration on a car. The roof, not the hood as many are mistakenly stating.

Just so you know, recently at a car show in Pennsylvania (the weekend of July 10^th), Tom Wopat (Luke Duke) appeared with the car. And, yes, it had the flag (http://www.wgal.com/news/dukes-of-hazzard-car-keep-on-display-in-carlisle/34104356). He was simple and direct when addressing the issue: “it’s just a decoration on a car”. He also added the history was complicated and that it meant different things to different people.

Anyway …

This project was started back in January, when Jeff Gordon announced his decision to retire. I decided to dedicate #TBT (Throwback Thursday) photos to items from his career: novelties, die-cast, trading cards, hero cards to celebrate that career. Items I had collected over the years and were proud of (still am).

I proudly waved my flag-towel on lap #24 at Las Vegas Motor Speedway to celebrate his final race here. And, at the time I was quite sad about it. It seemed like it was too soon for him to retire.  

However, since mid to late June, I find myself at confusing moment with this project – and I’m at a cross roads with it to be quite honest. I have a decision to make – continue or stop.  

Why?

The controversy over the “flag” as well as the “General Lee”, a car no longer welcome at race tracks. A car; that two good old boys used to right wrongs and do for others in.

Getting back to Jeff Gordon and this “stance” …

Let me state this right off –

I respect his right to his opinion. I respect him for stating how he feels. I wouldn’t want anyone to step on my right to do so. He has to do what he feels right in doing.

I would also like to state that, I do not stand for hatred, oppression, discrimination, or slavery. Being overweight, I have had to deal with my share of hatred, oppression, and discrimination – so I get that. Some will say you can’t compare the two.

They’d be right …

To a point …  

They’re similar in that the attitudes and opinions that spawn hateful actions are ingrained in the hearts and minds of people – so it doesn’t matter what the hate is a result of … it’s there.

Judging someone on their looks or anything other than character is wrong – period. That’s it. End of the story. Moving on …

This attitude toward the “flag” …

It seems that anything with it is free game. That even includes a beloved TV show: “The Dukes of Hazzard”. They were top 10 in the ratings for seasons two, three, and four. In season three (1980-1981), they were #2 – first was “Dallas”! Quite a feat for the show even a CBS official didn’t like.

Then again, shows are not for the executives – they’re for the people. And, between 18-21 million people tuned in every week for the show. That was between 1979-1983, before the “Coy and Vance” debacle. But, today, the show still lives in the hearts of the people that grew up with it, their children, and in some cases their grand-children. Just check out Cooter’s Place on Facebook if you are so inclined.

At the end of June, in the wake of the tragedy, Warner Brothers announced they were no longer going to license toys or merchandise with the General Lee because of … the flag. And, TV Land followed with pulling the re-runs of the show stating “controversy” over “the flag” (TV Land Pulls 'Dukes of Hazzard' Reruns

Jul 1, 2015; ABC News).

According to the article, re-runs were still being aired on CMT and online though. However, as of this blog, it looks like they are no longer on CMT either, making Amazon the only outlet for DVDs (which are in short supply) or online viewing.

Other than that “flaw in the slaw” (the flag) – there were no issues with the show or any racist comments, tones, or attitudes.

That wasn’t enough – Barnes and Noble, Target, and Walmart do not have the toy cars or the DVDs for sale. Amazon is the only one selling the series – but it is in limited supply (that should speak to its current popularity – obviously still in demand).

Amazon stats on the DVD sets as of 7/13/2015 @10pm Pacific Time:

Season One:         NOT AVAILABLE AT ALL 

                          (Six from other sellers, from $38.99 to $64.99)

Season Two:        TEMPORARILY OUT OF STOCK 

                           (Five from other sellers, from $22.49 to $59.69)

Season Three:       TEMPORARILY OUT OF STOCK 

                           (Seven from other sellers, from $22.48 to $59.69)

Season Four:        TEMPORARILY OUT OF STOCK 

                          (Two from other sellers, from $22.27 to $59.69)

Season Five:         TEMPORARILY OUT OF STOCK 

                           (Five from other sellers, from $22.49 to $79.98)

Season Six:          TEMPORARILY OUT OF STOCK 

                          (Four from other sellers, from $22.49 to $49.69)

Season Seven:      TEMPORARILY OUT OF STOCK 

                          (NONE AVAILABLE FROM OTHER SELLERS)

Reunion Movie Set:TEMPORARILY OUT OF STOCK 

                            (Available from other sellers at higher prices)

Now, if you go through Warner Brothers’ website, you just might be able to get them … here’s the stats as of 2:48am –July 18^th:

Season One:         BACKORDERED 

                           (Expected to ship in 10 business days)

Season Two:         BACKORDERED 

                           (Expected to ship in 10 business days)

Season Three:       BACKORDERED 

                           (Expected to ship in 10 business days)

Season Four:        BACKORDERED 

                           (Expected to ship in 10 business days)

Season Five:        BACKORDERED 

                          (Expected to ship in 10 business days)

Season Six:          BACKORDERED 

                           (Expected to ship in 10 business days)

Season Seven:      BACKORDERED 

                           (Expected to ship in 10 business days)

Reunion Movie Set: CURRENTLY AVAILABLE; SHIPS IN 1         BUSINESS DAY

FYI: The seven season set (for $168) is BACKORDERED  (Expected to ship in 10 business days).

That should tell them something – obviously it doesn’t.

At this point, it seems that even getting the DVDs will be difficult, if not impossible. Glad I have two sets though. At the beginning of July I debated on getting a second set, but I opted to – “just in case”.

This essentially equates to a “ban” on the show. Although the media and networks are not calling it such – that’s what it equates to.  

Banning “The Dukes of Hazzard” because of a flag on a car is not going to change those filled with hate and evil in their hearts and minds.

To make this worse – a golfer who has the ORIGINAL General Lee (Gen Lee-1, the one that made the historic jump) is going to alter (more like deface) that piece of work and that sickens me.

It is part of cinematic history – the car is a cinematic icon and treasure. And, it is also a work of art. To be honest, it belongs in a museum – cinematic one especially. It had been rotting away in a Georgia junkyard. Someone who thought it was valuable, rescued and restored it to its former glory – to be treasured and loved – not defaced or altered to suit the PC bandwagon. It is what it is – the General Lee – flag and all.

One wouldn’t deface the Mona Lisa to suit their vision, would they? What about the Sistine Chapel?

Perhaps they would … especially in today’s day and age. Or so it seems.

We all know what that car looks like, if not … here’s a picture:

[General Lee with the "flag" on the roof]

[General Lee in flight; "Dukes of Hazzard" ©1979-1985 Warner Brothers]

While there can be negative connotations attached to the flag, for me, it was really about the Dukes and what examples they set for us – and the lessons Uncle Jesse taught or reinforced in us.

Quick lesson – my mother taught me a lot of values and morals and not to do wrong. By watching “Starsky and Hutch”, I knew if I did wrong, I’d go to jail. I didn’t need to commit a crime to know I’d do time. I knew Hutch meant business, so any law breaking meant he’d come after me. Starsky I thought was a sweetheart though. Yes, it was TV, but to a kid – there is some form of realism attached.

And, if it helps me learn or reinforce lessons – how is it bad?

 “The Dukes of Hazzard”? Let’s say that if I lived in that universe, I wouldn’t worry about what Bo or Luke would do if I did wrong – seeing the look of disappointment on Uncle Jesse’s face made me feel lower than a snake’s belly in a wagon wheel rut. I never wanted to see that look on my mom’s face – ever! I never wanted her to feel like she had done something wrong in raising me. And, it too taught me: “do bad, go to jail”.

For NASCAR to not even allow the General Lee on the racetrack (which they had done back in 2006 at Las Vegas and 2008 at Atlanta) – that’s a little bit more than this fan will allow (see what I did there).

NASCAR’s stance sends me the message: “if you’re a fan of The Dukes of Hazzard  (or the General Lee) you won’t be allowed or welcomed – we don’t want you here”. However, one speedway president did say it wasn’t banned, but they asked fans not to display it out of respect. Fair enough. This fan will stay home and not “display” her flag (even if it’s only on the General Lee on her t-shirt). 

As of note, “The Dukes of Hazzard” featured several NASCAR references, driver references, and two drivers appearing on the show (Terry Labonte in an uncredited role; Cale Yarborough appearing twice as himself). To explain Bo and Luke’s absence the “NASCAR” issue was brought up. So, NASCAR cannot fully escape it.

In liking the series (and the car), I feel like I’m being wrongly judged by those in NASCAR, especially based on the statements of two of my favorite drivers. I’m being unfairly judged of behavior I’ve never exhibited in speech, expression, or even in attitude. So, how can I possibly feel “respected”? I don’t.

It is interesting to note I have not heard or read of anyone wanting to ban the movie “O Brother, Where Art Thou”. That movie is openly racist and offensive. It even shows the KKK about to hang a young black man for nothing more than his skin tone – yet, I bet some of the NASCAR drivers and personalities like the movie. I find it reprehensible! Still, no move to ban it – just “The Dukes of Hazzard”. Kind of hypocritical I’d say.

As a result of this hypocrisy, I had to make a decision regarding this project. This is one that hurts quite a bit, but I feel it’s the right one for me.

I can no longer do this project. I cannot do it.

It’s not like I don’t have items to feature, I have enough for this year and next; I recently acquired an item, albeit less than 10¢ due to using eBay bucks – and it is an interesting item to feature – it is a car from 1999 and sponsored by “Star Wars I: The Phantom Menace”. I feel like a quitter, so that’s nagging on me a lot. But, I cannot do it when I am this conflicted or there is a divide.

To continue the Jeff Gordon #TBT project would be (in some ways) supporting his views and those of NASCAR.

While it might sound silly … the Dukes were the kind of family I wanted to grow up with. They were, in some respects … like some members of my own family. And, I hate to see someone or something unfairly treated or targeted. It’s the same mindset that NASCAR is viewing certain fans with, but that’s okay I guess – just not okay with me.

Yes, one is reality – the other is a TV show. However, I am not the only one who feels that the Dukes were a good and positive influence – and part of our families. It was a time when families prayed before dinner and weren’t afraid to show love, affection, and compassion – for all folks. The only family drama was external – very seldom internal. And, that was usually caused by external influences.

Today’s shows? Not so much. You can’t seem to find a semi-functional family like Uncle Jesse, Luke, Daisy, and Bo (Cooter by extension). They worked together, for each other, and for others. That is perhaps why it hurts more that they’re being unfairly targeted.

NASCAR jumped into the South Carolina flag controversy before there was even time to recover from mourning – they could have remained neutral and cited their own policy. They didn’t. Today marks a month after the tragedy. Some decisions were made not even within a week’s time. And, the decisions were knee-jerk reactions causing others to jump on a PC bandwagon.

Because of said PC bandwagon, Warner Brothers discontinued the merchandise licenses (goodbye to General Lee die cast cars) and TVLand pulled the show. How fair is that to the actors? It’s unfairly labeling them as well! It’s also unfairly labeling the fans – some of who are of other ethnicities than white.

The series is supposedly available on DVD (but from few retailers, if any) – that is until Warner Brothers stops that. However, other offensive shows/movies are left alone. See the blog about “The Dukes of Hazzard and Indiana Jones” (http://soapboxmarie.blogspot.com/2015/07/the-dukes-of-hazzard-and-indiana-jones.html).

This situation could have been handled differently. It wasn’t. Now, we all have to live with the “fall-out” of someone’s evil. And some of that fallout is my relationship with NASCAR. This was started by the media who had to mention something that had no bearing on the attacker’s identity or the description of the car. It had no value to the facts – it did have inflammatory and sensational value though.

Will I attend future races? No, not likely. I cancelled my 2016 LVMS tickets (though I will lose the money I’ve already paid – couldn’t afford them anyway due to $1450 worth of car repairs and car rental expenses), and I likely won’t buy any more NASCAR stuff. I purchased a Jeff Gordon die-cast, but it only cost me 6¢ because I had eBay Bucks.

I’ll still keep track of NASCAR … just not like I did. I’ll still keep my stuff.

Why?

Because, unlike others – I can attach positive to combat a negative and show that the human spirit can endure, can evolve, look for the good – and do good.

That is what we should have focused on in the beginning – mourn, grieve, heal, talk. Find the good, not the bad.

Note:

This blog will appear in both blogs: “Making Laps – My NASCAR Blog” and “Snapshots and Project 365”.


UPDATE: As of August 5th, 2015 (8/5/2015) 6:10pm Pacific Time, it looks like the prices have "gone back to normal" for Dukes of Hazzard DVDs on Amazon. However, I would suggest investing in two sets though. 

As far as the General Lee? No word yet. But, from what I hear the last ones with the flag have been produced and the AUGUST delivery ones will be delivered in September. After September, the price goes up.

Here is more information: http://www.cootersplace.com/general-store/118-scale-auto-world-authentic-general-lee-amm964/

Can't wait to get mine. I was lucky as I ordered at the end of June.

References:

Albert, E. (2015, July 10). “Luke Duke” visits Carlisle Chrysler Nationals, speaks out about Confederate Flag. Retrieved July 14, 2015, from http://abc27.com/2015/07/10/luke-duke-visits-carlisle-chrysler-nationals-speaks-out-about-confederate-flag/

Barcaro, M. (2015, July 10). "Dukes of Hazzard" car on display in Carlisle amid Confederate flag controversy. Retrieved July 14, 2015, from http://www.wgal.com/news/dukes-of-hazzard-car-keep-on-display-in-carlisle/34104356

Fisher, L. (2015, July 1). TV Land Pulls 'Dukes of Hazzard' Reruns. Retrieved July 14, 2015, from http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/tv-land-pulls-dukes-hazzard-reruns/story?id=32152437

Nardo, M. (2015, July 10). Dukes of Hazard actor in Carlisle, responds to confederate flag controversy. Retrieved July 14, 2015, from http://fox43.com/2015/07/10/dukes-of-hazard-actor-responds-to-confederate-flag-controversy/

Warner Brothers (2015, June 24). Statement Regarding. Retrieved July 19, 2015, from http://www.warnerbros.com/studio/news/wb-statement-regarding-dukes-hazzard-merchandise

Torino Day

Not everyday you see this: 

[Thankfully I went in the back of the strip mall and not the front.]

As some may not know, “Car Stars” is going to be the weekend of May 14^th to May 16^th. It’ll feature a lot of the cars from movies and TV shows.

What was interesting is I was on the fence about going. But … it took a little convincing today, and I feel compelled to go downtown to see the cars.

Why?

Well … I had some unintended errands today (May 14^th).

On Monday (5/11), I put my car in for a few repairs and maintenance work. One of which was to replace my faulty hazard light switch. It stuck and I couldn’t use it. Either it wouldn’t turn on, or once on … it wouldn’t turn off. So, I bought one and asked the dealership to put it on while they were doing everything else (hoses, spark plugs, radiator flush, oil change, brake cleaning and adjustment).

Got my car home Tuesday, and Wednesday decided to use it and park my rental (which I was going to have for a week). Well, Wednesday night, I engaged the hazard lights to check on something. Disengaged and this happened:

[Obviously there is something wrong here ... my original one lasted for seven (7) years and didn't do this]

[There's something amiss here ...]

Yeah … where’d it go?

So, I parked it, grabbed my rental and left to get my mom from work. Now, this story takes a stranger turn before I get to today …

I also put in a laptop for an LCD screen replacement and to replace the hard drive which had been buzzing and crackling on Monday. It was ready on Wednesday as well. But … the USB ports? Couldn’t use them. Before the service, they were okay. Now? Nope … they don’t work.

[This is not good ... ]

Okay, so that has to go back as well. And, here I was hoping to have one day where I could stay at home and do nothing.

Today …

I get my mom to work and my car to the dealership. And, I get a ride home via the courtesy shuttle. Of course there are three drop-offs before me. Finally got home about 12:30pm.  Get my stuff in my rental and head over to the computer repair place. I decided to take the back way in through Sunset Station. And, was I glad I did …

[At first I thought I was drunk, then I remembered the last alcohol I had was 3oz of beer a week ago]

[The one on the left is registered in Nevada. That was the car that was being shot at when Stiller/Starsky said "stop shooting at my car". The one on the right is registered in Louisiana and was crashed closer to the end of the movie.]

Yup! Those are “Starsky and Hutch” Ford Gran Torino cars. One is registered here in Nevada, and the other is registered in Louisiana. I stopped to take a few pictures and went to drop off my laptop.

At first it was a simple issue – then nope … might take longer. So, I decided to leave the laptop and head home to get my memory card (which I left in my other laptop). But, I encountered the owners of the cars. That wasn’t the only person. There was a guy by the name of Steve who had the car in New Jersey (where he lives). His was the TV series car that Paul Michael Glaser (Starsky) drove in seasons 2-4.

These Torinos were from the 2004 Ben Stiller (Starsky) and Owen Wilson (Hutch) movie. And, this was the first time the cars were reunited since then. That movie was released in 2004, so that was 11-12 years ago.

Since the guys were about to leave I decided to grab my phone and use it. Steve said it was a good camera and I was praying he was right. And, he was. I didn’t have to ask for a picture by the car he offered. I looked terrible, but I did it anyway. And, I am not posting it. But, here are a few photos: 

[Owen Wilson (Hutch) autograph on the trunk of the Louisiana Torino]

[Ben Stiller (Starsky) autograph on the trunk of the Louisiana Torino. He is right, it is the best car ever!]

[From left to right: Antonio Fargas (TV series Huggy Bear); Fred Williamson (2004 movie Captain Doby); and David Soul (TV series Hutch) autographs]

[Better view of Antonio Fargas' autograph]

[Paul Michael Glaser (TV series Starsky) autograph]

[Fuel door. Nevada license plate is ZEBRA3; which was Starsky & Hutch's call signal]

[Curve of the stripe]

[Point of the stripe and the GRAN TORINO badging]

[Front end of the Torino. Very impressive in person. Gorgeous car.]

I was asked by Steve and the owner of the Louisiana Torino if I was going to be at “Car Stars”, and I honestly replied “I don’t know”. They both insisted I had to come down there tomorrow and the owner of the Louisiana Torino added “please”. How can I refuse that?

Anyway …

The owner of the Louisiana Torino was a great guy and he showed me the engine (351 Windsor) and told me the stories of both cars. 

[351 Windsor engine on the Louisiana Torino. 460 was too heavy for the stunts. The current owner bought this from someone who had bought it from Steve. This car originally had a V6, not a V8.]

I couldn’t ask to meet such wonderful people. And, this was something I hadn’t planned on. In fact, I was a bit miffed at having to return my car and computer back to get repaired … again.

Had those events not happened … this day would have turned out a bit different – so, that is something I’ve come to realize – things happen for a reason. We can’t question them. It’s a higher purpose. If y’all don’t believe, that’s fine – don’t bash those who do. 

But, I learned so much about the cars. As much as I don’t like the movie, I had to respect the cars and their history. I feel blessed to have had a “private” lesson in that history. And, I got to be a part of that moment.

I apologized for taking so many photos, but Steve said it was cool and the owner of the Louisiana Torino said “that’s why we have them here. Most of the time they’re in the garage”. I don’t doubt it. They’re special cars. So, they were appreciative that I stopped and was interested in the cars and took my time to photograph them and listen to the stories.

And, that is why I carry my camera at all times. It’s also why something like “Project: 365” is SO important – life happens.  Memories happen, we need to take the short time we’re given to enjoy the moment we’re living in – it won’t happen again.